What Really Happened in Everleigh’s Case

When a parent speaks out about foster care and family court failures, a familiar pattern follows. Narratives are created, labels are applied, and myths spread—often quietly, often without evidence. This page exists to separate what was said about me from what actually happened.

MYTH: The mother was unstable or emotionally unfit.

FACT: I consistently attended hearings, complied with court requirements, completed services, and communicated through appropriate channels. Emotional responses to prolonged separation from a child are not evidence of instability—they are human and expected. No finding was ever made that I was mentally unfit to care about my child.

MYTH: The mother was “high conflict.”

FACT: I asked for records, timelines, and explanations when decisions changed. I documented inconsistencies and followed up when information was withheld. Requesting transparency is not conflict—it is accountability.

MYTH: Limited visitation was due to safety concerns.

FACT: Visitation was reduced or restricted after I raised concerns, not because of any new finding against me. No incident was cited to justify increased limitations, and no corrective plan was provided to regain access.

MYTH: The placement was thoroughly monitored and safe.

FACT: Oversight was minimal, visits were infrequent, and critical checks were delayed or absent. My concerns about placement safety were not independently investigated before access to my child was further restricted.

MYTH: The case followed standard procedure.

FACT: Procedures were selectively applied. Communication stopped without explanation, records were difficult to obtain, and decisions were made without meaningful opportunity for me to respond. “Process” was referenced, but due process was not consistently honored.

MYTH: Speaking out harmed the case.

FACT: Silence would not have improved safety or transparency. Speaking out created documentation. Advocacy did not create the problems—it revealed them.

MYTH: The mother refused to cooperate.

FACT: I cooperated with services, mediation, and court appearances. What I refused to do was accept unexplained decisions that affected my child’s safety. Compliance does not require surrendering your voice.

MYTH: This is about blame or retaliation.

FACT: This is about record accuracy. When narratives replace facts, children are placed at risk. Correcting the record is not retaliation—it is protection.

MYTH: The case is over, so concerns no longer matter.

FACT: A final order does not end a child’s right to safety or a parent’s right to speak. Accountability does not expire.

Final Truth

My advocacy was reframed to justify silence. My concern was recast as a character flaw. And my child became harder to reach as I became harder to ignore. This page exists so Everleigh’s story is not reduced to myths written by people who did not live it.

Facts matter.

Records matter.

And children matter most.